Only because I’ve been through it and I know what it looks like, can I feel comfortable enough to put this out there. It’s shameful, no way around it. The characters that engage in behavior such as this should be banned from utilizing such an extraordinary tool as social media. When we were in high school, we got mad at the things people said and retaliated. When we were in high school, we were children.

When you post your thoughts, ideas, music, projects, and pictures online, you are asking people to respond and comment. As a woman who has been doing this for quite some time, I know how disheartening it can be to get negative feedback on something I’ve work on. I know how frustrating it is to have someone, who doesn’t even know you, tell you that you are ugly. However, I can’t go out and beat a bunch of people up, when I put myself in the situation to be judged. I can’t spend my days commenting and bickering with every single person who attacks me with his or her irrelevant post daily. I’m grown. If I’m truly busy, then those comments are to be expected and I should “put my big girl draws on” and deal with it.

When people, especially black women get into Facebook and Twitter beefs with each other, it’s disgusting! Yes, you want to get your point across. Yes, you want to prove that you are right and the other person is wrong. It will cost you your self-respect, your reputation, and your sanity. Most of the time, people can tell whose the irrational one with something to prove, if you just shut up and let that crazy bird chirp. It’s a lose-lose situation, leading to nothing but childish banter that we shouldn’t have time for.

I get my respect from those that know my intentions and respect my grind. I don’t assume that every person who clicks follow is truly a member of my team. I understand that not everything I say may come into agreement with many people in my network. Nevertheless, I expect that if I’m saying things you don’t like, or if you truly don’t like me, that you will be wise enough to click unfollow/unfriend. Don’t be nosey, don’t be cute, and just don’t care. I will say what I want, I will post what I want to share, and if you hate it… do what should come naturally… move on.

When we take ourselves out of that rational and decide to fight online and offline, over mere words, we put ourselves in a position to be foolish. Someone almost pulled me out of character a couple of weeks ago. I was more upset with why she was mad and her reaction to it, then what she was actually saying. I prayed on it, and I decided it was best that I don’t respond. God showed me that I made the right decision, by the amount of emails, Facebook messages, and tweets that said, “You inspired me”, “You are much better than that…”, and “I respect what you do…” I appreciate the support and I will continue to show you what it looks like to be yourself, to be fearless, and to be a motivation to everyone around you. I do this for the love of it, but I do appreciate it when I can affect someone along the way. I wish I could have inspired the young woman to stop and look at how her actions were going to be perceived in the end; however, some people are just too far-gone.

Continue to be who you are and let those who stop that, diminish in the distance

Internet beef is NEVER worth it.



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