Those of us with children, all want our kids to be as awesome, if not more awesome, then we were as children. We want them to look good, feel good, be great, and excel at all their lessons. It’s only right that we focus on what’s important for not only the school year, but all throughout their lives. However, there are a few of us (parents) who may not realize just how much our behavior and what we do and say, can affect the future of our children. People look at us and judge our children, look at our children and can almost guess what kind of people we are. It’s a cycle of “Don’t you dare embarrass me when you leave this house”, but people rarely talk about it. As a very observant parent, I thought it would be great to have an open dialogue about this with you all. Teachers, Administration, and school staff all talk about this, especially when we’re not in earshot. I have a few friends that are school teachers and they definitely share words and opinions on parents and their children off the clock. Their words, although often true at times, cut deep and hold nothing back. If they would ever say anything to a parent or to a child, it could potentially lead to chaos and catastrophe for their career, side-eyes, and questions regarding their passion to teach. However, I don’t think they should be in trouble for speaking the truth to grown adults, identified as parents and guardians. We should be able to handle constructive criticism from the adults that we entrust with the safety and education of our beloved offspring. This whole process is a joint effort, but many of us (parents) fail to realize that. Here are some lessons that I believe that Teachers probably want to give you but are too afraid to lose their jobs after. If you think of anything that should be added to this list, feel free to leave it in the comments below.
Lesson that the Teacher Probably Can’t Tell You:
2. It’s always obvious which parents are living vicariously through their child’s life, because they failed to be popular, well-dressed, or liked at their age.
3. Despite all the warnings you give your kid before the start of the day “You better not tell this… or you better not say that…” most likely they will.
4. When you come to school in your pajamas in the morning, and then return in your pajamas in the afternoon, you proclaim to the world “I’ve been in the house all day asleep!”
5. School is not a free daycare center, expect assignments, structure, rules, and a flourishing opportunity to teach and mold your child. Not a drop-off and pick-up service.
6. It wouldn’t hurt to attempt to speak like an adult when in conversation with your child’s teacher, loud obnoxious slang and broken English does not look good. (I’m is, what that is? How old he is? Etc.)
7. Hygiene is important! A room full of dirty children, only leads to disease. Bath time, bird bath, a shower… please take a baby wipe to your kid. It’s helpful to all of the other families, if we can all do our part.
8. If your house is lit up with the smell of illegal drugs, please believe that odor is residing in your children’s clothes and hair. Everyone knows you do drugs…. *side-eye*.
9. Your little girl is adorable, she is cute, and you dressed her up very nice. However, teach that little girl to sit her fast behind down and stop chasing after all the little boys in the classroom. Don’t wait until she is a teenager to keep her from getting pregnant, stop her now!
10. Bullying is wack! Stop teaching your kids to beat up other kids in school, just because you got your tail whipped every day of your life. Teach them to keep their hands and feet to themselves.
11. If you can make time for reality television and the nightclub, then you can help your child with homework. Period! (… and don’t do it for them, that’s NOT helpful.)
12. Stop walking up to the school grounds with your child, smoking heavily on your cigarettes and black & milds. You may not worry about the health of your own child (pity on you), but don’t taint the lungs and minds of the rest of the children. Save your cancer sticks for your time away from the school.
13. How you treat the teacher, sometimes can affect how she teaches your child. I’m just saying. Professionalism and respect is not out of style and definitely goes a long way.
14. Times are extremely busy and everyone is working, taking care of their family, etc. Try to find some time to get involved, before or after school, weekends, once every 3 months, do something.
15. Try connecting and networking with other parents. Playdates, study groups, and birthday parties are all beneficial to the development and social skills of your child.
16. Talking with your children about inappropriate touching from strangers, adults, and other children, is very important and crucial to their safety. It can be awkward and weird, but better safe than sorry. It should come from you, their parent.
17. If the teacher wants to discuss your child’s behavior, listen up. Don’t get defensive and feel like she is picking on your child. Work together to correct your child’s behavior and make the school year easy on everyone involved. It’s not personal, it’s their job. However, if you feel like there is a bigger issue, talk to administration or a mediator.
18. Understand that everyone doesn’t have it as good as you may have it. Some children in your child’s class may be homeless, destitute, impoverished, or struggling with personal problems that their parents don’t want to share. Give if you can. Don’t always brag and boast about your latest new purchase, or send your child off to show off their new toys and clothes. Humility and modest behavior is a lesson that you can teach your children that will last a lifetime. If your child outgrows clothes and shoes, ask about a local clothing drive or donation box. Volunteer as much as you can. And connect with families that you can perhaps bless in some way if you are fortunate enough to have plenty. Don’t judge the children and other parents, but try to sow a seed.
19. The rules are set in place for a reason. It may not always fit your lifestyle or comfort, but by you being mindful of policy and procedure shows your child that honoring those things is important as an adult.
20. We all are going to take plenty of pictures and post great things about our kids. It’s a proud time in our families’ lives to be able to do so, but you do realize that there are great things to share other than the first day. Share moments with your kid outside of the school day and week. Taking your kids to the park, zoo, aquarium, and the library are all great things to do. Find out what the lesson is and expound on it, by doing things with your kids at home and around your neighborhood. It’s not just the teacher’s job to educate your kids, so Google some awesome ways to have fun and learn at the same time. Chuck E. Cheese and Amusement Parks are not the only options. The time you spend doing some low cost and family friendly activities has its long-term valuable benefits. The job of teaching isn’t the Teacher’s alone.
I’m truly excited about this new school year for my oldest child, I look forward to seeing all the post of proud parents and kids. Wishing everyone a truly awesome and amazing year.
What Other Lesson Should Parents Learn This School Year?
- Skills to Teach Children Before School Starts (safewise.com)
- Parent Involvement in the Classroom – Find out what’s happening in your kid’s school (babble.com)
- I Yell at My Kids Way Too Much: What can I do? | Babble (babble.com)
- Little Things Mean A Lot: How You Can Help Your Child Have a Great School Year (mjhscounseling.wordpress.com)
- Back To School Homework For Parents: Keeping Kids Healthy (schoolofsmock.com)
- 8 Signs It’s Not A Discipline Problem – Is it just tantrums or a developmental disorder? (babble.com)
- Back to school: 10 things teachers want parents to know about connecting with them (oregonlive.com)
- Homeschooling: Yes YOU Can! (kidzedge.com)
- How Children Succeed – Paul Tough (slideshare.net)
- Award-winning Teacher Has Advice For Students, Teachers As School Year Begins (detroit.cbslocal.com)